You Never Asked For Trauma...

In fact, you probably never consented to a lot of what happened during your past medicalized labor and birth. Everything happened so fast...you expected support; you thought you picked the right birth team to fulfill your wishes; you were never even presented with the option to say NO to many of the things you now understand were a choice. In the aftermath of your sabotaged birth, you are left wondering what you did wrong, and calling your care provider a "hero?!" Spoiler alert: you did nothing wrong, and likely didn't need "saving" with any of the interventions that now haunt you.

It may take months or even years to become fully aware of the emotional manipulation or physical trauma a momma goes through during a medicalized birth. It can feel so infuriating to hear "at least you and your baby are healthy," when that focuses on diminishing very real trauma experienced at the hands of "professionals." You may be telling yourself it doesn't matter how the birth went or to get over, but it does matter. YOU MATTER. You, your baby, and your family all deserve to know you as an unburdened mother. It's time to acknowledging your trauma, wade through the ocean of emotions that have come with it, and find some peace.

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